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07 October 2009 @ 02:18 pm
Warning to Post-T individuals.  

This post is directed more towards the many Transgender individuals who are newly discovering themselves and beginning to look for ways to begin their transition. It is a review and warning about a certain Psychologist who specializes in Gender Dysphoria. I'm writing this on behalf of my Boyfriend who is not able due to lack of time to post this warning.

My Boyfriend, like so many others I am sure, was not able to go see a Therapist in person. With his job and the distance, the best solution he found for therapy was an Online site called www.Gendertherapist.com .It seemed too easy to be true, and in the end it turned out it was.

Only after transferring the amounts it would take for a certain number of sessions,  my boyfriend began his sessions with the thearpist. Each session began with recapping of the previous session, with the Dr. trying to figure out which client he was talking to and trying to remember what he had forgotten from the prior week. If there was an incident which meant you had to miss a session and you canceled it or tried to reschedule with an ample amount of warning, days ahead, he would still try to force my boyfriend to pay for the lost session. My Boyfriend began to get irritated eventually with the fact they began to no longer talk about Gender related issues, nor even about himself, instead  the Dr. spoke of his day, how his week was going, often took phone calls while during a session meaning my boyfriend sat there waiting for the him to return. Each session was only an hour long, not alot of time to be doing other things rather than paying complete attention to your patient who is paying you for the time.

Finally my boyfriend decided he didn't want to continue, didn't want to pay a good amount of money for  nothing, so he spoke with the Dr. about getting a advance on the letter for his T since it seemed their sessions were amounting to nothing more, the Dr. gave him a draft copy of his letter, which was simply the letter my Boyfriend had written and form he had filled out in the beginning,  but with some words altered, such as 'I believe' in regards to the doctors belief. He had incorrect information on them as well. He told my boyfriend to get the final Letter he would have to pay $200. The amount for sessions that he wouldn't be having, and an amount for the letter itself.

My boyfriend was sick of the lack of professionalism by the man, and decided he would instead do things an alternate way. Since he canceled the last of his sessions,  the Dr has sent him many emails asking for the Money, asking why he was not coming back, and giving him a story of how little money he has to support himself and how he needed the money, trying to guilt trip him. He also began to try to add him on Facebook and Twitter and basically e-stalking him.

We want to Warn people about the Unprofessional conduct of this Gender Therapist. To try and hopefully protect others from getting the same treatment, and having someone trying to scam you out of money before stalking you on line and constantly requesting your money.

Luckily my Boyfriend has gone a different route and is on his way to getting his T.
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aki_no_kazeaki_no_kaze on October 8th, 2009 03:35 am (UTC)
have you thought of launching a formal complaint to (wherever) he is licensed? (or at least wherever he is based as he may not be licensed)
aki_no_kazeaki_no_kaze on October 8th, 2009 03:40 am (UTC)
looks like he is in Kent, England.
Dom.: <_<gentlemanlycad on October 8th, 2009 02:50 pm (UTC)
He's not, anymore...used to be... but he's way out in Asia now. I'm the aforementioned boyfriend.
.>/=: Beowulf - Rockwell Kenttommytesto on December 12th, 2009 07:09 am (UTC)
Complaints can also be lodged with professional organizations, and one of his is based in the US.

Not saying what should or should not be done in this situation - although I have strong opinions - but in general, licensing boards are not the only places which can deal with complaints. They are, however, often the most effective at compelling someone to improve.