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07 October 2009 @ 02:18 pm
Warning to Post-T individuals.  

This post is directed more towards the many Transgender individuals who are newly discovering themselves and beginning to look for ways to begin their transition. It is a review and warning about a certain Psychologist who specializes in Gender Dysphoria. I'm writing this on behalf of my Boyfriend who is not able due to lack of time to post this warning.

My Boyfriend, like so many others I am sure, was not able to go see a Therapist in person. With his job and the distance, the best solution he found for therapy was an Online site called www.Gendertherapist.com .It seemed too easy to be true, and in the end it turned out it was.

Only after transferring the amounts it would take for a certain number of sessions,  my boyfriend began his sessions with the thearpist. Each session began with recapping of the previous session, with the Dr. trying to figure out which client he was talking to and trying to remember what he had forgotten from the prior week. If there was an incident which meant you had to miss a session and you canceled it or tried to reschedule with an ample amount of warning, days ahead, he would still try to force my boyfriend to pay for the lost session. My Boyfriend began to get irritated eventually with the fact they began to no longer talk about Gender related issues, nor even about himself, instead  the Dr. spoke of his day, how his week was going, often took phone calls while during a session meaning my boyfriend sat there waiting for the him to return. Each session was only an hour long, not alot of time to be doing other things rather than paying complete attention to your patient who is paying you for the time.

Finally my boyfriend decided he didn't want to continue, didn't want to pay a good amount of money for  nothing, so he spoke with the Dr. about getting a advance on the letter for his T since it seemed their sessions were amounting to nothing more, the Dr. gave him a draft copy of his letter, which was simply the letter my Boyfriend had written and form he had filled out in the beginning,  but with some words altered, such as 'I believe' in regards to the doctors belief. He had incorrect information on them as well. He told my boyfriend to get the final Letter he would have to pay $200. The amount for sessions that he wouldn't be having, and an amount for the letter itself.

My boyfriend was sick of the lack of professionalism by the man, and decided he would instead do things an alternate way. Since he canceled the last of his sessions,  the Dr has sent him many emails asking for the Money, asking why he was not coming back, and giving him a story of how little money he has to support himself and how he needed the money, trying to guilt trip him. He also began to try to add him on Facebook and Twitter and basically e-stalking him.

We want to Warn people about the Unprofessional conduct of this Gender Therapist. To try and hopefully protect others from getting the same treatment, and having someone trying to scam you out of money before stalking you on line and constantly requesting your money.

Luckily my Boyfriend has gone a different route and is on his way to getting his T.
hrolleifhrolleif on December 10th, 2009 02:21 am (UTC)
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Sorry you had a bad experience, that sucks, but not all therapists or modes of sessions are compatible for everyone. I think it's pretty unfair that you and your GF are badmouthing him in this way.

I don't think, in the case of therapy sessions, that certain peoples' word could have more weight than others, especially if they did not use him themselves. Those people that have experience with him, regardless of how prominent their faces are, should have the most weight in what one can expect by using his services.

I was referred to him by another trans man in my state, because gender therapists seem to be few and far between out here in the back of behind, at least those that don't charge unworldly sums of money. Both he and I had a decent experience with Graham and were able to get hormones and surgery in a quick amount of time with his help.

He is probably chasing you all over the place because you are unfairly badmouthing him all over the place. He is a great resource for those of us who can't travel and/or can't afford local therapists. If it didn't work out for you, that does suck, but it's not fair at all to say it's a rip-off or a scam. It's not, especially considering the charges of other therapists. The only gender therapist in my area, for a several-hundred mile radius, is charging $180/per session (a session lasting 45 mins) and $2400 to write the letter. Now *that* is a rip-off!
.>/=tommytesto on December 12th, 2009 06:42 am (UTC)
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hrolleif, a therapist coming into a former client's online support space is inappropriate behavior, regardless of how many other clients have had a good experience.
hrolleifhrolleif on December 12th, 2009 01:43 pm (UTC)
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I would agree if this post were locked. However, as it is this is an open public space.
.>/=tommytesto on December 12th, 2009 05:32 pm (UTC)
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This is open space - but professionally, it is a boundary violation, particularly when the former client clearly has characterized the intrusion as unwanted.

I am going to leave it here now and take the matter a bit higher. You and I are on the same side, to be clear, but this therapist has professional obligations which he is violating. It is not our business how many visits the client got or whether he obtained a letter. That is a breach of confidentiality...and I hope that you and I both agree that confidentiality is important for therapists to provide to clients.
hrolleifhrolleif on December 12th, 2009 06:16 pm (UTC)
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Well, the OP did place links to the therapist's website in publicly open posts. If even one person clicks on it then it would be available in the logs for his website and he probably checks out all incoming links. I don't think it's unethical at all to do that. Once he saw what his former client was saying he felt he should respond to the accusations. My experience with him was much different than what is being reported by the OP so it seems possibly exaggerated to me and I can see why that would be upsetting to the therapist. OTOH I wasn't there so I can't know for certain.

Even so, I agree with you that it does not look good to come in and write that sort of response. It does seem more focused on money and potential future clients than on the well being of the former client. This really doesn't look good for either party, but you are right that a therapist certainly has more of an obligation toward professionalism than the client does. I can definitely think of better ways to respond, if responding is absolutely necessary, that do not break the confidentiality and that are just generally more professional and empathetic.

Unfortunately, there are worse gender therapists out there. I just want people to know that this is at least an option for a letter... that it's not a scam. I guess people will have to look at his behavior and decide if that's something they can tolerate to get the letter. It's stupid it has to be that way, but that's another discussion entirely.

(Anonymous) on March 22nd, 2011 04:42 am (UTC)
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Reading this way after the fact, obvs., but... I SMELL A MULE! Or a cohort.
hrolleifhrolleif on March 22nd, 2011 11:52 am (UTC)
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What? I'm no cohort of Peveller. I haven't even had any contact with him in *years*. I'm a transguy who lives in a remote area and I didn't have access to affordable gender therapy in order to get my letter for hormones and surgery. Peveller was able to provide that for me. I really didn't even get along with the guy, but he wrote me a letter that worked for me so in the end that's all that matters (at least IMO).

Maybe something has changed with him, I don't know, but when I dealt with him in 2006, it was no scam. I do know of others who got a letter from him as well. I would NOT recommend this method for people who actually have issues they want to work out. I was only interested in a letter and had no need or desire for therapy per se so it worked fine for me.

Dom.: gentlemanlycad - LWgentlemanlycad on December 12th, 2009 03:14 pm (UTC)
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Please note, never once has Dr Peveller ADDRESSED the questions I've repeatedly posed to him regarding his conduct.

While I'm glad you've had a good expirience, it's hardly unfair to post a personal opinion which can be disregarded by anyone who choses to. It's not as though anyone's forcing anyone else to read. This is a forum which elects for people to post exactly that... besides that 'all over the place' I believe to be an unfitting statement seeing as how the ONLY posts written are here and in my PERSONAL journal. Now if I was running around, throwing up websites with this personal opinion and blasting him EVERYWHERE that is one thing...this is hardly the case.
hrolleifhrolleif on December 12th, 2009 03:31 pm (UTC)
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I'm not saying your personal opinion about your experience is unfair, but you are not posting just your personal opinion, at least that is not how this comes off. You're posting that the service he's offering is a scam, for anyone. That's what's unfair because it's not a scam, as evidenced by the fact that I (and others) received hormones and surgery using the letter he wrote. Maybe you felt you got scammed, that would be a personal opinion, but you are making a more generalized statement, which is unfair IMO. People are free to disregard my opinion as well, but I would still recommend his service to people.

You and your GF have made it clear, by your statements and by leaving this post and the one on your own journal unlocked, that you are shouting this out in a public space. This is accessible by everyone EVERYWHERE, so it is the same thing as "all over the place".

Finally, I do not answer for what Peveller does or doesn't do. His behavior is up to him so I don't speak to that at all. I'm just saying that his service, while maybe not for everyone, is not a scam. You can get a legitimate letter for hormones and surgery from him.